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Post by blackrose on Jun 18, 2009 9:38:27 GMT -5
Yeah. I got married when I was 21. I wouldn't recommend it. I mean, of course there are people who get married young and stay happy together... but, overall, it's not something I'd recommend. I kinda got rushed into it, too, because of the visa thing.
Speaking of which - my first attempt at filing the divorce papers was something of a disaster, what with one thing and another... so I had to file to reinstate and do it over again. That was back in Feb. I got the signed papers back and am getting everything together to mail it out for attempt number two. I'm very nervous-excited, and totally jacked up this morning...
Meanwhile, me and Darkk have been talking about our own nuptuals. Part of me wants the big, traditional-ish wedding I didn't get the first time... but since my loving parents have informed me they will not be helping financially, even though they did for my sister, we've been thinking small instead. We've even been talking about something at the house, with immediate family and close friends only. Since it's a small house, that would at least be a good excuse for the inevitable hurt feelings of the aunts and uncles that don't get invited. (On the other hand, I'm thinking that if I tell my mom her family can't come because I can't afford it, she might offer to help a little... )
I kinda like the idea of small, tho. I was always dreading having to make the guest list - the whole 'if you invite this cousin, you have to invite that cousin, even if you haven't seen him in 10 years'. *sighs* At first I was kinda upset at having to give up my dream of a nice, gothic castle setting... but the more I think about it, the more I like it. We could get catered by the wings place. I'd be ok with that. *grins* I don't need a fancy cake or anything, either. I still want the dress I found, tho...
Anyway, it's not a huge issue 'cause we're not looking at getting married 'til next October anyway... so right now it's all very abstract. We've picked a date, but we're not making anything official until I get that lovely piece of paper that says I am officially divorced!
We are totally going to the Wizarding World of Harry Potter next year, tho. Even if, for whatever reason, we end up not pulling things together for next year (money/plans/etc) - we are still going the Harry Potter world. I have been totally geeking out about it since I first heard about it, and there has to be priorities! *geek grin*
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Post by E on Jun 18, 2009 22:21:11 GMT -5
BR, Harry Potter World? What the hell is that? And please, for the love of all that is holy, DO NOT tell Shawn about it. Bear, I am so relieved to hear the scion is back in order. What is this business about SIL marrying a MARINE!? Doesn't she know that military divorce rate is more than civilian? And they are turds in general (3 of my brothers, 2 cousins and 1 BIL are marines)? Won't she "wait" for him to come home? That is how they did it WWII and I'm pretty sure the marriage survival rate was better. Can you tie her up and hold her hostage until he leaves? Or send her to me and I'll sit on her? Sigh. Bastard "youngers", they won't listen. She may not even LIKE him when he gets back, or worse he may bring her syphallis or something. We had our final walk through today, loan doc's were signed yesterday, the bank may fund them tomorrow... Oh the NERVES!
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Post by blackrose on Jun 19, 2009 7:49:55 GMT -5
They're building the Wizarding World of Harry Potter as part of Universal Studios in Orlando. They're making a replica of Hogwarts, Hogsmeade, the Forbidden Forest, and such. It's due to open early next year. It's gonna be freaking awesome :>
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Post by Denethor on Jun 19, 2009 10:53:43 GMT -5
As far as the Witchvox thing goes, I haven't had any time. We have a major due date at work and I've been spending most of my time on that. I had to beg out of a Lodge convention this weekend as well - several times - and I had to explain that no, the problem isn't about riding up to New York City with a carload of Realtors! (No, really, in this case I would have enjoyed that part.) The summer is likely to be busy as far as work goes, with the more experienced people needing to spend their time on the contract re-up proposal, which if all goes well will feed us for the next five years. (I've been told, incidentally, that my position is pretty secure in the new contract, because as a less experienced person, I'm, well, cheaper. It's the high-priced more experienced ones who are going to have to justify having all of them come along). So, not only is there lots of work to do, I've been getting to wet my feet in some somewhat more challenging stuff that the experience hasn't had time for. Good for me in the long run, but not much net (or rest) time. Good gawd bear, two weeks to plan a wedding? Are they crazy? I can understand your distress. Admittedly, because of my family's military experience, the main thing I know about "Marine" is that it stands for "My @$$ Rides In Navy Equipment"; my family was always Navy ("Never Again Volunteer Yourself") or Army ("Uncle Sam Ain't Released Me Yet"). Oh, that, and that they're called "jarheads" because apparently the IQ requirements aren't as high as those for other branches. Or something. In short, my relatives would be biased. But two weeks until a wedding. Damn. Blackrose - yeah, I'm familiar with families and money. My Dad is sitting on a pile, I have close to nothing, and while I don't need his help at this point, our family money squabble is this: when I have even a tiny amount to call my own, my Dad's wife (otherwise known as the Prototype for All Busybodies) asks me why I don't give it to my sis. Now my sis does have a lot of financial challenges right now, and I'd love to help her, but I'm in my forties and am missing teeth and have to think about an eventual retirement. And when I talk to my sis, she tells me of going to the parents for little loans and getting turned down! And then the same people, who as I mentioned are sitting on a pile, have the gall to try to guilt me for not helping! It's infuriating to have to resist the temptation to tell family to literally put their money where their mouth is. What do I hear from the busybody prototype? "Well, you could give up your apartment, take a basement room in some friend's house or something and send your sister money. And people like you never retire anyway." Yeah, I'm supposed to make sacrifices to that level while they travel to Belgium, live in a luxury retirement condo, buy new cars and send her nothing. Do I dare talk to my Dad about it? Well, no... But I have instituted a policy of simply never discussing money with them if I don't have to. It goes diametrically against the general policies of families-who-used-to-have-money, which in the main consider every individual member's finances strictly everyone's business, but it does help. Not saying that'll necessarily help with your wedding budget, but in my case it has been an important step toward, well, sanity. (Funny how I post as Denethor when in actuality I'm more like Faramir. Heh.)
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Post by bear on Jun 20, 2009 0:29:40 GMT -5
BR, good luck with the divorce. We had a medium/big wedding. About 100 at the wedding. About 350 at the reception. I think if I had to do it again, I'd send out invitations saying, "We are eloping to Vegas. If you want to attend, find your way there."
E, my main concern with the guy is that I think he's the Peter Pan type, never grew up. I hope I'm wrong.
D, family and money suck. I don't know what advice to give you.
I'm watching the end of The Happening. Its about as bad as I thought it was going to be. I keep remembering the review I heard, "It should be called Reaction Shot: The Movie."
The wedding is tomorrow. I hope all goes well. Mrs. Bear's mother was calling her today asking about the groom's mother. I just looked at Mrs. Bear and said, "How are we supposed to know?"
My dad was career Air Force. It was a tough way to grow up, but it was also a good way to grow up. Got to see a lot of things that not many others get to see. Got to live in Europe for 5 years.
I'm hoping for the best. I'll put on a big smile for them.
Mostly I'm hoping for a relaxing weekend. Its our 7th anniversary. Other than the wedding, it will be our first weekend that is just us for at least a month.
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Post by bear on Jun 21, 2009 9:04:38 GMT -5
The wedding went well. Well, as good as an outdoor wedding can go when it is pouring rain. Normally a June is pretty safe in that regard, but tis year we've had 4 times our normal rain in June.
And I was wrong. She's only dated the guy for about a year. But she's known him since grade school.
This morning we were hoping to get out early and do a hike for our anniversary and Father's Day because the forecast was for afternoon storms. I rolled out of bed at 7am, raining like mad.
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Post by MsAriel on Jun 22, 2009 7:24:36 GMT -5
I'm glad the wedding went well Bear. Still allotting only 2 weeks for a wedding is stressful, even if you've known the person for a while!
We went to see my MiL yesterday, and planted some flowers on my late FiL's grave and my husband's grandparents' graves as well. Had a decent day all in all.
Not much going on here, tomorrow is my son's 8th grade 'graduation", so that will be exciting. My only issue is it is at 10:00 in the morning, which means that everyone who wants to attend gets to take the day off from work. ugh...
Not much else is happening, I hope everyone is having a good day!
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Post by blackrose on Jun 22, 2009 9:53:19 GMT -5
bear - I've actually thought about looking to see if it's possible to get married at the replica Hogwarts at Universal and do something similiar with the "if you want to be there, it's on you" sort of thing.
Glad the wedding went well, and that she's known the dude for awhile.
Den - yeah, I have plenty of my own Faramir-like issues. Once I start ranting about it, I can't stop, tho... so best not to start in this instance :>
Weekend was ok. We were lazy, tho... didn't do half the errands we'd planned on . We did go out to dinner for our 6 year anniversary, tho, so that was nice. Called dad yesterday. Didn't do anything for the solstice, tho... they don't factor all that heavily into my own seasonal stuff - tho I did spare a passing thought to how nice it'll be for the days to get shorter again. Can't complain, tho - it hasn't been very hot that much this summer, yet. Very wet, tho, which I don't mind so much.
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Post by E on Jun 22, 2009 15:21:19 GMT -5
Bear, I am glad you are open minded about SIL's decision. I hope that the boy can be what she will need. Congrats on your anniversary! Time seems to go by so quickly... Ms A, Sheesh! He is already going into high school?! I remember when you posted photos and he was Aut's size! Are you excited? BR, Have you written Universal and asked what they can offer? Well, we did our final walk through. The bank is ready to fund, we are just waiting on the county recorders to not be backed up so it can record title. It may record today, which means Shawn wants to be out by thursday so they can move in over the weekend.
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Post by bear on Jun 22, 2009 18:48:32 GMT -5
Just want to make sure our DC friends are okay. There was a Metro train crash this afternoon.
I'm hoping D's post in Rants & Raves is a good sign.
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Post by blackrose on Jun 23, 2009 8:45:37 GMT -5
E - no, I haven't contacted Universal because it's not really a serious idea. It's a notion I've toyed with, but I doubt I'd actually do it. I haven't really done any official planning, yet... just some browsing around.
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Post by hydra on Jun 23, 2009 10:02:45 GMT -5
I am on vacation this week and I have been having a great time. I am spending time babysitting my granddaughter and visiting local sites. We went to the zoo yesterday with some friends and we are going to the aquarium this afternoon.
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Post by Denethor on Jun 23, 2009 12:57:05 GMT -5
Just want to make sure our DC friends are okay. There was a Metro train crash this afternoon. I'm hoping D's post in Rants & Raves is a good sign. I only just heard about this crash an hour or so ago, when I turned on my phone and found a concerned message from Qira. I then logged on to work email and found a couple of expressions of concern there as well. See, it happened on the train line I take, and during rush hour. (However, fortunately for me, going the other way and something like a half hour/hour after I get out of the system anyway). People who know that I take the train to work - and especially those who know I take that line - were quite legitimately a bit worried, and if they are annoyed with me for my tendency to go incommunicado when I'm working they can be forgiven. I quite understand. That was horrible news, but it could have been way worse: if it had happened on an outbound train at five o'clock...plenty bad enough as it was. In any event, thought I'd post something to the effect that both Qira and I are all right. Thank you for thinking of us.
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Post by E on Jun 25, 2009 18:00:19 GMT -5
Oh my oh my oh my OH MY!
We closed!!! It recorded Tuesday. We are now officially on the road to elsewhere. OH My!
Glad you are okay D. Where is Q? Will you send her my greetings. I miss her.
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Post by MsAriel on Jun 26, 2009 9:30:05 GMT -5
YAY E!!!
I chatted with Q the other day, she's doing well, busy with school, but well. She's at State College this weekend.
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