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Post by Shannon on Apr 23, 2009 18:59:35 GMT -5
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Post by hydra on May 17, 2009 10:08:19 GMT -5
I have a granddaughter. I raised a boy, so I have no experiencing raising a girl. I wonder if there really is that much a difference at this point in time. Hayden Elizabeth is six and half months old. She is a happy baby. She sleeps for several hours at night, likes to play with stuffed animals, has two teeth, is trying to talk and has a pleasant personality. Here is a pic of her with her mom: i14.photobucket.com/albums/a305/The_Hydra/haydenmommysix051609.jpg
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Post by E on May 17, 2009 13:35:19 GMT -5
Oh Hydra, She is beautiful! SO much hair! I have been really "sore" on this topic the last month or so. My eldest is a 10 year old girl. I have noticed VERY marked differences in her behavior versus the boys. I missed the baby stage with her though. I am not sure how much of difference there is in infancy, other than I have heard that girls potty train slower or faster, I don't remember which. My biggest fear of this newest baby is that s/he may be a girl. It scares the hell out of me, I have so many questions as to how you care for them in comparison to care of a boy. Diapers, boo boo's and everything else.
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Post by MsAriel on May 19, 2009 7:54:32 GMT -5
There isn't a huge amount of difference in basic care, E.. still as many folds and wrinkles that need to be cleaned. I think the biggest thing may be that attitude in which they're raised. My 16 year old, while loving sparkly things, shoes, purses, and dressing up, has NO problem getting all dirty and sweaty and going fishing and hunting with her dad and brothers.
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Post by bear on Jun 16, 2009 20:49:15 GMT -5
I thought I'd update the ongoing potty battle.
She filled up all of the potty chart she got for christmas. Towards the end of it, she started losing interest in the potty again. I think it was because the stickers were running out and she knew she was going to get her trip to Disneyland this year (and the trip wasn't going to be immediate upon completion).
She started her new daycare/preschool today. There are kids there ranging from newborn to kindergarten age. So at least half of the kids there use the potty and get to run over to the potties whenever they need to go.
Little Bear asked for help using the potty every single time she needed to go today.
Yeah! Now if we can just translate that into home.
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Post by MsAriel on Jun 19, 2009 14:00:48 GMT -5
Way to go Little Bear!!
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Post by bear on Jul 3, 2009 23:16:42 GMT -5
We are back to the battle of the wills, regarding the potty.
Once she got all the way through the potty chart, she lost interest in the potty. She kind of got interested in it again when she switched daycares. The new daycare has a lot of kids older than her that use the potty. Plus they have little potties, just their size. Then she lost interest again.
So today, since I have a 4 day weekend, decided this is it. We are going to work without a net and she's going to wear the panties. I told her that she was only going to get to wear the trainers to bed and on long drives.
This morning, her defiance won out. She put her blanket over her head and sat there until she peed on the floor. I decided to give in because it was 30 minutes until her lunch and then another 30 minutes until her nap.
So she thought she won. Especially when she got the trainers back on for the trip to the grocery store.
But I was smart. I bought 20 pairs of panties for her at the store. Now she can pee in them all day long and I won't run out.
So we got home and I put them on her. And she did the same damn thing again. Sat there until she peed on the floor. And I changed her made her walk around with only her panties on because I wouldn't let her pee on another dress. Waited 45 minutes and I made her get back on the potty.
Yeah Potty!
Then I let her put a shirt back on. She ate dinner. Played for a little bit. 45 minutes later, just before bed, I made her get back on the potty.
Yeah Potty!
And she didn't want to put the nighttime trainers on after wards. Yeah! But I told her she'd get a cookie, then have to brush her teeth, and go to bed. And I told her she'd get to wear more panties tomorrow.
So maybe we've made progress. I freaking hope so. She defied me on everything else today. I don't know if I can take this for four days straight.
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Post by MsAriel on Jul 7, 2009 10:54:13 GMT -5
I wonder if, perhaps, she has to help you clean up the floor, not as a "punishment" per se.. but so she knows the whole consequence to not using the potty.
Sounds like she's being a typical toddler and she'll get there.. Mom and Dad may have a few more gray hairs by the time it's done...
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Post by Shannon on Jul 8, 2009 15:24:18 GMT -5
Now imagine that four times over, Bear. I am absolutely amazed in the difference between raising a girl versus boys. Jillian really is so much more calm and docile and willing to please than the boys ever were. I know that when it comes to the teen years I'll be praising the boys and wanting to pull my hair out over her, though. The boys couldn't wait to wriggle of my lap and explore and be independent, where as Jill is much more content to sit on my lap with a toy or cuddle. She also seems to have a natural nurturing instinct. The boys purposefully poke and bother and make me worry that I'm raising serial killers, while she wants to soothe and care for. Not that she isn't spunky. She can definitely hold her own with them. I'm not trying to have out dated perceptions of gender roles. I'm positive part of it is personality, environment, and influence. But I do also believe there are some gender difference that range from mild to extreme.
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Post by bear on Jul 11, 2009 23:25:26 GMT -5
Almost a perfect day today. 5 for 6. Unfortunately #6 was in the high chair.
The part that bugs me the most: you would think she would tell me immediately that she peed her underwear and ask me to change it. Right? No kid would want to sit there indefinitely in wet smelly undies.
Well, no kid except my kid.
But I think we are making progress. Really all she needs to do is start telling me when she needs to go. The rest of it she can do. All she has to say "I need to pee" and then find the potty. Instead, if I let her, she'll pee her pants and then just sit in it until I figure I out.
I only got 1 "I need to pee" today. But that's 1 more than I got all week and last weekend.
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Post by bear on Jul 12, 2009 23:04:27 GMT -5
Today more successes, but still one miss.
The miss was the poopie. Gross.
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Post by MsAriel on Jul 13, 2009 8:59:38 GMT -5
She'll get there.
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Post by hydra on Jul 13, 2009 21:47:00 GMT -5
My granddaughter, Hayden, just had a little well baby checkup and she is doing great. The pediatrician told my son that she is advancing well and rapidly. She is on the verge of walking and she is 8 1/2 months old. The doctor told Hunter that it is quite normal for girls to be more advanced than boys in the area of physical development, intellect and mobility.
I was wondering if this really is true or just the pediatrician's opinion or if there is some factual basis. I tried to google on this subject and came up with nothing.
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Post by bear on Jul 26, 2009 13:59:08 GMT -5
I don’t think it is necessarily true. My niece was walking by 10 months. But Little Bear wasn’t walking on her own at a year. She took forever to get sitting up. But it was less than a week from that until she had pulled herself up and was walking along the furniture. Then it took her a long time to let go of the furniture and walk on her own.
From what I read in the “What to expect” books all kids have their own development timelines. Generally the speed at which they achieve the milestones doesn’t mean much to later development, unless they are really late at achieving them.
On the subject of potty training, Tuesday is P-day. “P” as in panties being worn to school/daycare.
She’s doing really well. We are down to just a couple accidents a day when she’s trying to get to the potty, and sometimes not any. The number of times I have to remind her to get on the potty are down. And I think she is excited about wearing them.
Sheesh, its only taken me 16 months to get her here. But at last, diapers only at night! Yeah!
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Post by Denethor on Jul 26, 2009 21:18:42 GMT -5
I don't know if there's supposed to be a gender difference with this one (I seem to remember some study saying it was more common among boys, but still nothing to panic about in a girl) but if one's child is a late talker, it is nothing serious, especially if other developmental milestones look ok. Often, especially, really bright kids will be late talkers, and start off in complete sentences when they're three or four. (Then you may long for the days before they realized they could talk, because they never shut up...) I was one of these and my parents were told all sorts of scary stuff, and then not to worry. Just thought I'd pass that one on.
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